As writer, activist and feminist trailblazer Audre Lorde wrote famously — the erotic is power! A great sex life isn’t a superficial “extra” in our lives. Vibrant sexuality is a critical source of strength and verve in our lives.
Desire Mapping is a dynamic tool for sexual liberation that hinges on the idea that until we can claim our authentic desire — and not simply capitulate to or parrot the ‘wants’ that others have designed and approved for us — we cannot seek connection and build our families and our life paths in the generative ways that we must. In fact, the more we bury and deny our erotic truths, the more our vision for a life worth living falters.
For the past ten years, Dr. Jaime Grant has presented Desire Mapping workshops at conference and Universities all over the country and around the world, to Mappers as young as 16 and as old as 72.
Along the way, the Mapping process has spawned a glittering faculty of people of many ages, genders, races, sexual orientations and sexpressions that has come together to create unique, transformational interactive workshops. This past year, hundreds of Mappers joined us in Denver, Colorado at a national leadership conference; in Cape Town, South Africa for the second annual GenderDynamiX conference; and in Beijing, China, when Chinese LGBT activists Mapped together, despite a government shut-down of its activist gathering.
We are inspired by the hundreds of people who have taken a Desire Mapping workshop and reported breathtaking changes in their lives — whether pursuing a desire they didn’t believe they deserved to act on, venturing into new territory with a lover of many years, or telling the truth on a first date.
We are also amazed by the work Mappers have been able to do together in the wake of the workshop — whether challenging narrow visions of justice in our organizing work; pushing back on oppressive behaviors in our workplaces or families; or simply trying new things out when our fears had held us back.
Day Long Desire Mapping Institutes can be created for as few as ten and as many as 200 people. Collectively, we come together to uncover or recover some part of ourselves we’ve left behind; to share or be silent; to be present; and to be amazed and buoyed by the strength and the courage of our peers.